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Making decisions to satisfy your ego will get you into trouble. You’ll encounter hardship, turbulence and resistance in your life. Have you ever argued with someone? That was your ego talking. Have you ever argued with someone and said things you shouldn’t have said or regretted later? That was your ego taking control. Neither situation will accomplish anything other than creating adversaries and losing friends. There is quote from Dale Carnegie I’ve learned to love over the years: “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”
What Mr. Carnegie so very well put into words is only a fool allows their ego to control their emotions, but it takes self control to be understanding and forgiving. Arguments are naturally emotional and that is why you need to avoid them. Honorable people work out their disagreements and an argument is never won. If you disagree with someone listen and recognize their point of view, avoid escalating the disagreement to an argument, sympathize with them, and let the other person do the talking.
Egocentrism is present in mostly children; and as a child becomes consciously aware during the second stage of their psychic life they shed their “I” or ego. Therefore, if you are dominated by your ego you have not transcended to a higher consciousness and are in need of assistance. For whatever reason, internal or external, you did not “make a leap” during the adolescent years. There are many modern day self-help gurus to guide you through your life journey: Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, Wayne Dyer and Carl Jung are my personal favorites. Taking time to control your ego will benefit you in every aspect of your life.