Be disciplined with your kids. Don't be soft with them. Give them the right message about being in control and having confidence in your self and your abilities. However, avoid being too firm or arrogant. Discipline means being firm but fair. It also includes allowing yourself to be playful (child-like) but not childish, to be organised but not too organising, to be in control but not controlling, to be the leader but not the dictator. Show your kids strength and backbone, not arrogance and power.