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“There is only one way… to get anybody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it.” – Dale Carnegie
Children are on their own agenda. It’s not that they are lazy or malcontent they just don’t realize the consequences of their actions. Their psyche is incapable of understating how their current actions will affect their future selves – forgive them for they know not what they do. Sound familiar? You can go on and on about how not doing well in school is going to affect what college they attend, but they won’t realize the severity of their actions until the entry reply comes in the mail. And who ultimately suffers then? Your child ends up suffering. Instead of punishing or taking electronic devices away from our kids why not try appealing to their higher motives? Instead of buying everything they want for Christmas or a Birthday try making them earn it. Their current obligation outside of the home is school; just like your obligation outside of the home is work. Actually school is their job.
After school they will replace school days with work days and studying for late night brainstorming sessions. Try making them earn their next video game, dress, or car? Another tactic is to lay down a challenge. Highly intelligent children need challenges - it invigorates them. You’ll want keep the competition away from siblings though. You don’t want the house turning into a battle ground. Another tactic is to have your children write a set of goals. Have them write goals for short and long term objectives. The overall theme is to get engaged in their lives and let them know you care and are concerned about their future.